My mama told me I would "kiss a lot of frogs, before I kissed my prince" and now at almost 30 I know what she means. I have had more than my share of frogs. I have had the broke man: "Hey, can I borrow a couple of dollars"....the superficial dude: "Oh I just needed to take the bus up to New York to do some shopping today....the thug nucca: "When I got home, I knew the first thing I needed was some p***y if a nucca was gonna make some moves"....the down on his luck, can't get ahead brotha: "If I could just finish ______ then I would be able to move on" and of course the say anything to get the p**sy dude: "of course I want to be with you...I just want us to take our time..." Then of course there is:-The Alcoholic: gets drunk to hide his problems.-The Graduate: thinks he's so hot cuz he purchased a degree...in Atlanta-The Asshole: Moody, never happy....-The Poor Performer: He couldn't "sort out da ting" if there was a manual.-The Clueless: Goofy...simple...and just don't get it.-The Businessman: Money makes him horny...not me.

Ladies, you know this list could gon on forever, but I'll stop it here. That is, because I kissed a frog I never thought I'd kiss: The Admitted Bi-Sexual. That's right, this brotha wanted to spend time with me, kiss me, and even think about layin me after he told me he has had a "homosexual experience". Now what's a girl to do? Didn't I just say I wanted to be lied to? (smiling, laughing, smirking) But for real. I have to share this story...let yall see that I'm not single because my weaknesses outweigh my strengths...I'm single because these dudes out here are strange!

The Story
Out of the blue while setting up plans for the next night, he says: "I want to tell you something totally random"...I said "okay...do share...". He says that a friend told him about an online porn site that he could visit and gave him the password...long story short....after watching some flicks on the site he decided to "click" on the "gay porn" banner. He watched a couple of men perform oral sex on one another and decided he was curious. Coincidentally (or not) shortly after a "girl friend" said that her fantasy was to watch two men together....and yep! you guessed it, he was more than happy to help his friend. She made the arrangements and a couple of nights later, he was getting oral sex from a man! He claims he couldn't "keep it up" because the whole situation turned him off....but then again, that's just what he told me....Bi-Sexual and Not Know It?

My first reaction was awe and disbelief. I couldn't believe what dude was telling me! I mean, the fear as a single black woman is that there are men doing this and even worse, not sharing their behavior with their sexual partners....but I never prepared myself for what I'd do if a man, a black man, shared this kind of thing with me! And by the way, we were heading on our second date...we have not slept with one another...at all! I know the stats. There are many bi-sexual brothas out here....even if they won't admit it. Which leads me to my next point. When I asked him if he considered himself bi-sexual he responded with an emphatic "NO!" Huh? I'm confused. Now I didn't ask him if he'd be at the next gay pride parade, I simply asked if he felt that he was a bi-sexual....apparently he doesn't see his curiousity and behavior as indications of his sexual preference. Do you?