Love and Relationships, Are They Overrated?

What is this thing called love...
As many of us bustle through our daily lives we find ourselves asking the eternal questions: Am I loved? Do I love well?

Okay maybe not in that language, but basically you get the point. When the world we live in promotes autonomy and and mis-interprets cooperation with codependence, where do we, the future 'elders' of our society fit in? I ask this question as I probe myself about what it really means to be "in love". Some may answer that it has to do with a feeling, while others may insist it is about the right mixture of personality traits, morals, and of course, equity. But I raise another quesiton, can another person really validate, comfort, and unconditionally love another? I am by no means a pessimist, but when black relationships are reduced to sexual adventures, and Judge Mablelean...the future does appear pretty bleak. Are we really that injured that we cannot find our way to fulfilling, respectful, enlightening, exciting partnership? Have we ever really known that in our community? Can we, as a generation reliant on technology and impulse really demonstrate the patients, practice, and loyalty that successful partnership requires?

I hope so. I need so. As a young single black woman with a desire to put more faith-filled, confident, successful, loving, compassionate, and self-loving youngsters in the world I realize how much we all really need each other. I also realize I cannot do it alone.

Brothers - Just because we don't see what you are doing doesn't mean it doesn't hurt. True manhood is defined in your ability to revere the creator and the role of all of its creation.

Sisters - We were given the womb for a reason - what you birth, will be what is given life - respect the gift you have been given.

Couples - Understand that a request for love is a healing act, not a desire to diminish your person. If you don't know how to...pick up a book, go for a run, get counseling, or ask someone you trust.

Let's commit ourselves to really finding a solution that will work. We are a people so powerful but so disconnected. My challenge to you would be to define love through action and not words. Let those that make you believe in the future see your commitment to them. Let your commitment to them be an observable act.

Thanks for reading my rant - I won't be sending you thousands of dollars from Microsoft, or be cursing you with bad luck, or even worse death, but if you think someone might want to, or need to read this please direct someone to this link.

I love you now, I will love you then, and I loved you first.