The White Collar Brotha
I can't deny, something about a man who has moved through the ranks of society and established himself as a professional just screams "great catch" at first sight. When out and about, I meet brothas who can list off their accomplishments, education, travels, and as a black woman the first feeling I have is pride. I'm thinking to myself "go on boy wit yo' bad self!". On the surface, I admire his tenacity, resilience, and determination because as a professional woman I know it ain't easy out here. On the other hand, he urkes me. Why? Might you ask. Well let me tell you a bit about some of these brothas beyond the surface:
1.) Watch how his success automatically equates him with being entitled. Oh yes, I said it. Somehow these brothas act like because they were able to get through 4, 6, or 8 years of school suddenly the world revolves around him. He can be egotistical, judgemental, and plain ole snobby!
2.) Have you ever asked him to change a light bulb, take out your trash, or paint your walls with you? I have, and I have received responses from "oh yeah, I'll help you" only to not get the help, or "why should I do it if I can pay someone to do it?" or the worst "you're independent, you don't need my help!" Ugh!
3.) He thinks he's such a hot commodity that he refuses to make a sincere effort at establishing a relationship with just one woman. Somehow, because he has a job with benefits he thinks he can have his "pick of women" and ultimately he becomes a serial dater....ladies be ware!
The Blue Collar Brotha
I consider myself a free agent, and as such, I try to date diverse men. With that said, I have had relationships with men who were not educated, lacked a permanent "job title or profession" and overall, do not appear like they would be equally yoked with a professional woman. And yet, my friends, and some of my family members have found themselves over come with love and admiration for these men. Hmmmm....what gives....I'lll tell you a bit about these men:
1.) They are not bound by what they appear to be. These men tend to have more substance, and as a result, are generally available to meet a woman's needs. Because he's not consumed with spitting off where he went to school, what people he has networked with and how often he watches the market, he tends to see his role in the relationship more clearly.
2.) I can ask him to be a man and he's not insulted, on the contrary he is willing and able. This means when I ask for my car to be washed he finds it rewarding to "take care of his woman". If I need him to protect me from others (co-workers, family, or friends) he steps up because he cherishes me.
3.) He does not see me as a "money maker" and acknowledges me as "his woman". These brothas decided not to run the rat race and as a result seem to enjoy the simplier things in life: making love on a rainy day, a good hot meal, a backrub for those achy joints, and a "thank you for taking my car to the mechanic baby" more than the white collar dudes.
By now you can probably tell I favor a blue collar brotha any day over a white collar brotha. You may even be wondering why I don't just go out and find me one. My answer to your question? They've been snatched up already by smart women who got to them before me! So tell me FH fam:
Do you prefer a white collar brotha to a blue collar brotha and why? Next question, Do you agree with my generalizations regarding blue/white collar brothas or do you disagree? Fellas: why is it that when you get educated you start acting like you're God's gift to the world? Edify me....please!
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